What is love?

What is love?

A question one would never dare to claim to know the answer of, but really, what is love?

"An intense feeling of deep affection."

"Feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to."

As you read this, I thought it would be nice to google love first and also include it in this piece to save you the trip. Now, do you believe these definitions truly represent the meaning of love?

Human beings are very similarly different from each other on the basis of few things. You meet a lot of people on your day to day activities, yet you have been highly selective of those who are worthy of your friendship, loyalty, time, money, feelings and love. However, you live upon standards of which you did not put together nor have you ever given the thought to understand the choices you make on impulse or decisive action, but you recognize your limits, your strength, your weakness, and your wants and needs. There are a number of things human beings on average have chosen not to question for specific reasons, though not justifiable like choice, religion, political views, family values, integrity, honesty, money and love. In the following thoughts, the existence of love is going to be questioned both subjectively and realistically to assess the unquestioned aspect of the word itself and its meaning to people who truly accept it for what it is perceived to be rather than what they make out of the word and the meaning of love.

If you have been in love or presently is, I reckon you would question your notion of love if you are willing to give love the time to profoundly think about it in a meaningful way that is exclusive of bias views and reckless emotions. Belief is power, but it is a lesser power than disbelief. It takes a coward to believe but a courageous one to disbelieve. 

You believe you are human, and no one can change your mind. You should not be blamed for believing so unless you would deny the fact that you are humanly signified, you are as conventional as a thing limited in your own realm of species. 

You hate, you love, yet you are certain you have a reason to do so. You believe love is a real thing, it may not be tangible, but you are convinced it is justifiable and you are willing to stand behind your belief because your fear outweighs your bravery and courage to question universally accepted notions such as love itself. Moreover, you are in a position to choose to believe to love your family and those deemed worthy of your love and affection.

It is quite clear that the ordinary person would loudly say that love exists, but on what aspect does one support such a vague claim other than the 6 senses human beings possess? That is where feelings comes in. Love is all about feelings, so they say negating some essential elements such as sex, flirt and self-interest. Love is a made-up word to mask the selfishness of every lover. 

The self-interest element of love summarizes the real meaning of it. If you notice a couple or some random people who seem to love each other, do your homework, find out what is driving that love other than self-interest. nevertheless, people care about people, people forget sometime that they in the whole scheme of love for the sole purpose of satisfying the self on the short and long run and what happens in the meantime represents the politic of human beings dealing with each other.

Love does not exist and it is not because it is not tangible but rather simpler than that. Human beings are very smart animals, nonetheless we live to thrive and we are all selfish no matter what we may believe of ourselves. When we admit that we love, we are admitting that we are either a loser or the winner for that matter. Either way, there is a loser and a winner in a love relationship, just as much as there may be a homogeneous situation where both can be losers and winners as long as both interests are being satisfied.

If you love or currently in love, you can be a loser or a winner and the same goes for your partner. The simple way to identify whether you are a loser of a winner, you need to get your priorities straight, while assessing your partner's. There is only one way we can agree that love exists, that is we all accept that we are selfish and we are in it for ourselves and our purpose is to satisfy our needs whether or not our partners' needs are being satisfied. As long as we are loving others for ourselves, and we are claiming love is selflessness or "it's from the heart", love does not exist because we are selfish individuals.

Why love is there when you believe you love someone and disappears when you hate that person 2 years later? Is that what love is, a flip flopping commodity?